How to Manage Your Social Media During Your Divorce

If you are getting divorced, you might feel motivated to spill the details all over social media. However, posting about your divorce can have a profoundly negative impact on the proceedings.

Key Takeaways: 

• Your social media can be used to paint a picture of you that goes counter to the narrative you want to present in court.
  
  

• There are many risks that come with posting about your divorce, including affecting child custody or alimony.
  
  

• Speak with your lawyer to determine how you should manage your social media during your divorce.

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In the modern digital age, it’s typical for people to give updates about their lives across social media. Whenever the average person opens or closes a new chapter–births, deaths, marriages, graduations–it’s typical to make announcements on social media, commiserate with friends and followers, and vent emotions across the digital sphere. So when you are getting divorced, posting about it is just the same as any other life event, right?

The answer is absolutely not. Divorce is a legal process and posting your unfiltered thoughts and information can embroil you in legal trouble and even affect the outcome of the divorce process. 

At Z Family Law, we guide people through their divorce journeys, offering our experienced advice on how you should conduct yourself throughout the process. Our latest blog addresses the issue of social media and how it can muddle your divorce so you can avoid the pitfalls associated with posting. 

Want To Post About Your Divorce? Don’t Do It!

When it comes to blasting your divorce on social media, like Facebook or Instagram, the best advice is simply not to do it. Though it will likely not harm you to acknowledge the fact that you are getting divorced, you want to avoid posting details of your divorce and the dissolution of your marriage. You especially want to avoid posting about your spouse, their life, any behaviors that led to your breakup, and your feelings related to them as a partner or person. 

Even if you feel that your post is innocent rather than hateful or spiteful, or if you don’t think it recounts specific details of your legal case, it’s better to not expose anything about your divorce to the internet. Anything you post can be used against you in a court of law, so it’s best to refrain from posting altogether. In fact, your lawyer might advise you to make all of your accounts private since information can be taken from them in order to create a narrative about you. The most innocuous posts–where you go, what you do, how you spend your money–can be used to paint a negative picture of you.

Even if you do not intend to make posts on your account, commenting on the posts of others can still expose you to misinterpretation. Similarly, it’s important to keep family members in check and prevent them from posting photos, videos, or comments regarding your marriage, divorce, and the legal battle. 

Dangers of Misusing Social Media During Your Divorce

Anything you post on social media–whether during or before the course of your divorce– can be used to create a portrait of you that is not flattering which can be used against you in court. Based on posts that can be cherry-picked from your social media history, your spouse’s divorce team can paint you as aggressive, emotional, or unstable. Simply put, your social media can be used to destabilize the credibility you are attempting to establish. Even if these posts create only a partial or inaccurate picture, they can still muddy the waters of your case.

There are different types of narratives that can be used to hurt the narrative you want to create:

• If you document your own spending through posts on social media, particularly if you post about any expensive purchases or extravagant expenditures, your spouse could potentially use this to influence how your property is divided or how alimony is established.
  
  
• Documenting other information about your life such as a new relationship can also make you look worse in court. If you are still technically married, it can be construed as cheating, which can make you look less sympathetic to a judge.
  
  
• If you post about your case and the legal strategies involved, you can tip off your spouse’s team about the approach you are taking, which can be a huge risk, and could even compromise attorney-client privilege. Legal strategies should always be kept private!
  
  
• Posting incendiary comments on social media can alienate you from the court and cause negative outcomes for your case, particularly if you are attacking your spouse, posting opinions about the ongoing process and the legal professionals involved, or fighting with people in your or your spouse’s social circle.
  
  
• Finally, if you post photos of any behavior that could be considered ‘unruly,’ such as partying or excessive drinking or if you fight with people online, it can influence outcomes regarding child custody. Proving that you are an emotionally mature parent can go a long way with a judge, and social media can be antithetical to that.

Tips For Using Social Media During Your Divorce

First of all, there is nothing wrong with letting people know that you are getting divorced via social media. However, you should keep any additional information to a bare minimum.

If you choose to post about your divorce on social media, avoid any discussion of the details of your marriage, the specifics of your court case, and/or complaints about your spouse.

Before you post on social media, seek guidance from your lawyer about what is appropriate and not appropriate. Always be cautious on social media, and remember that if something feels questionable, you should probably just skip the post. 

Z Family Law Can Help You With Divorce Guidance

If you are navigating divorce, Z Family Law is on your side. We take a compassionate, humanistic approach to divorce so you can put your worries to rest and focus on creating a beautiful new beginning. We offer free initial case evaluations, so reach out today to schedule one and stop wasting your days in a toxic relationship.